Saturday, September 27, 2008

Sexism among IITians

There! It's official. You have no business being in the IITs if you are not a man. What else do you assume while reading this webpage (the page has since been modified) on the site of the latest IIT global summit? The IIT alumni global summit will take place in December, at IIT Madras. While the IITian "chooses to inspire, innovate and transform", the organisers have thought of "an exclusive track designed to keep Spouses and Families completely informed and entertained". And presumably, spouse in their vocabulary means wife. Because presumably again, all IIT graduates must necessarily be men. Women have nothing to do the institutions unless they are married to its male graduates, right? And the programmes are meant for the "complete woman", who must balance personal and professional life. The men have better things to do. Like inspire, innovate and transform. Seriously, what the fuck?

They have a fantastic guest list of "complete women." Hema Malini, because she is the very epitome of womanly grace. Shilpa Shetty, because she shot to fame with Big Brother and because of Richard Gere kissing her. Then the women will be taken shopping for jewels and saris. Because, that's all they care about anyway. Emma hits the nail right on the head. It sucks! This reeks of a very chauvinistic attitude. IITians may be brilliant, but they certainly do not seem to hold much store by women's intelligence. Abi compiles a list of all those who are disgusted. Ludwig calls its "unfuckingbelievable."

Well, it is. I am rapidly losing respect for that bunch of morons who are organising this event and irritating the life out of the rest of the educated crowd. But to me, this is simply a manifestation of a deeper malaise in Indian society. Some men, however educated they may be, cannot really accept that a woman can be equally intelligent. They don't seem to see, their IIT education notwithstanding, that there can be women IIT graduates who choose to bring their husbands around. Oh of course not. A woman IITian would only be married to another IITian right? After all, which man would want to marry a woman more intelligent than him? It would hurt his, already fragile ego, right? Ugh! These men!! They are disgusting. Someone tell them they are being complete asses!!

Also, here is an image from the 1950s. Speaks volumes about the sexism that existed at the time. All of it is crap, but this one takes the cake.

"Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours."

Of course. Like this...

Husband: I had a terrible day at the club this evening. I was interrupted three times while drinking whisky by some moron.

Wife: Listen, I have something to tell you. The gas connection expired, the TV conked out and you have forgotten to pay the electricity bill.

H: But listen, the whisky was anyway very watery. God knows what they did.

W: The home loan chap came home today. We have to vacate by tomorrow because you have defaulted.

H: The whisky...

Of course. His topics of conversation are more important than yours. But of course!

7 comments:

Vivek said...

SOOOO very true.
I guess this isn't something thats occurs in the IITs alone!
Funnily,Man - Woman battles are of such a nature. Even if they don't know it.

Indian Home Maker said...

@Vivek It isn't really a man-woman battle, it's simply a case of some people being so smug and complacent in their own self/way of rigid thinking, that they have not noticed how much the world has changed. I won't blame all men, men have changed too, and ventured into fields that were considered exclusively women's.

Ms Cris said...

Let me at 'em! Sheesh! Its like they have taken that for granted all "spouses" are "complete women"! Indeed!

Amrutha said...

Vivek: I agree with IHM. This is not a man-woman battle alone. It reflects a deeper malaise in our society. We just assume so many things. Of course, all men are not like that. In fact, I came across quite a few blogs by men who felt equally outraged.

Cris: Absolutely! The gall!!

roop said...

hahaha

Nita said...

these kind of things make my blood boil Amrutha. and i bet these people consider themselves liberal and the like. hypocrites all.

Pipa said...

I am disgusted because despite the outcry

** B Santhanam, Distinguished Alumnus of IITM, and Event Chair for PanIIT 2008
(Prof. Nagarajan of ChemE's words not mine) ** refuses to reword the program.

Words are symbolic, they mean something. In this case they indicate the mindset of these men...